I kept wondering how healing myself is linked to healing my ancestors. Some sites say you can heal yourself by disconnecting from the negative energy of your ancestors. But how would that help my ancestors??

Finally I found this:

An excerpt from a book called “Karma and Reincarnation” by Dr. Hiroshi Motoyama, Head Priest of the Shinto Tamamitsu sect of Japan which states:

“The parent/child connection manifests as one link in a long chain of ancestral karma that stretches back through time.  Your link to your family allows you to be born into that specific line – it is a link that needs to be understood and respected.  In this modern scientific age it is very difficult for people to accept the fact that they are responsible to their ancestors, that they are actually liable for the actions of their ancestors if the resulting karma has not yet been dissolved.  Many find it absurd to think that the actions of an unknown ancestor could possibly have anything to do with what is happening to them today.  But time and time again when investigating someone’s karma, I find problems that stretch back generations.  Their spirit is not just an individual entity, it is also part of the family spirit that births and nurtures it.”

 But what was even more interesting was what the rest of this page said:
http://www.honor-ur-ancestors.com/ancestralhealing.htm

Please read it – it gives much better information than I can describe at this time.

My understanding now is that our ancestors will re-incarnate back into this ancestry line. So based on that, by healing our issues with our current family members, we heal our family and ourselves and prevent the recurring problems for our future generations who are actually our ancestors!

We can also heal our ancestors too so that they can pray for us and guide us from The Light.

I pray for my grandparents that have died and for dad. I forgive them all for any past hurts they may have caused me and I release my unforgiveness of these hurts known and unkown.
I ask their forgiveness for any hurts I have caused them, and I release the attachment to that pain.
I pray that souls of Ross Clay, Victor Clay, Kolio Kolio, and Iris Clay are elevated to the light, peace and love in God that these souls need, so that they may bring peace, love and light to me and my family and my home.
I ask the Archangel Uriel to come to my assistance and heal my family and myself from these past hurts and pains. Release all this pain for us.
Thank-you God for everything.